Ruth and Phillip

It was a cold winter evening. This night would be a perfect night for sledding. Newlyweds, Ruth and Phillip had made plans to go sledding at the local high school. This school had the perfect steep hill for sledding.

Ruth and Phillip got ready with their winter gear and off they went to make some joyful memories. As they arrived, Ruth could see happy families going up and down this steep hill covered in what seemed endless inches of snow. Children with cold red noses and melted snow on their cheeks, laughed as they sled down the hill.

Philip and Ruth sat down on the sled and off they went. Over and over they sled down and walked up the very steep hill. As Ruth got ready to go on another exciting ride, Phillip announced they were leaving. Ruth got up from the sled confused as to why they were leaving. He told her that they were leaving because she wasn’t having fun. Ruth wanted to argue and say he was wrong but she was surrounded by many families and children. She picked up her sled and placed it in the trunk and got in the cold car.

Ruth quietly said that he shouldn’t make assumptions about her feelings when she was having so much fun on this Sunday night. He didn’t respond but drove in silence to their small home.

Once inside, Ruth asked him one more time why they had left. Again, Phillip responded the same. They had left because she wasn’t having fun. Ruth told him he was very wrong to assume her thoughts and feelings. As she turned to go in the kitchen, Ruth heard him call her a b****. She froze in the middle of the kitchen in disbelief, anger and hurt. She didn’t know what to say to this man whom she loved.

Ruth had been born and raised in a very conservative Christian home. She had never heard her father degrade her mother in any way. She never thought it possible that a Christian man like her husband could curse let alone curse his wife in such way.

Ruth tried to respond something in return but all that she could voice was that she wasn’t a b****. She wasn’t. She was Ruth, daughter of the King.

Note from author:

This night would mark the beginning of a very toxic and abusive marriage. Ruth hoped that Jesus would come in and change her marriage, but Jesus had different plans.

Please join me in the story of Ruth and how Jesus helped her cross over to the other side of pain and hurt. Many women in our Christian churches are abused both in body and spirit. These women live in fear and in silence. They long to live their purpose for God but instead live a life of prison and abuse.

My blog is dedicated to women who suffer in silence in the church.